Aug 12 2008

Did I Miss Anything Important (in class) Today?

Published by John under College Life

Guest Blogger: Cynthia Frisby, Ph.D, Assoc. Professor, Advertising, University of Missouri

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We’ve all had that question…A student is absent from class and comes up to you to ask, “Did I miss anything?” or “Did you do anything important in class today?” The following poem by Tom Wayman illustrates the various thoughts that have come to mind as I struggle to politely respond…

DID I MISS ANYTHING?
Question frequently asked by students after missing a class

Possible Answers:
Nothing. When we realized you weren’t here we sat with our hands folded on our desks in silence, for the full two hours

Everything. I gave an exam worth 40 percent of the grade for this term and assigned some reading due today on which I’m about to hand out a quiz worth 50 per cent

Nothing. None of the content of this course has value or meaning.
Take as many days off as you like: any activities we undertake as a class
I assure you will not matter either to you or me and are without purpose

Everything. A few minutes after we began last time a shaft of light suddenly descended and an angel or other heavenly being appeared revealed to us what each woman or man must do to attain divine wisdom in this life and the hereafter, this is the last time the class will meet before we disperse to bring the good news to all people on earth

Nothing. When you are not present how could something significant occur?

Everything. Contained in this classroom is a microcosm of human experience assembled for you to query and examine and ponder This is not the only place such an opportunity has been gathered but it was one place.

And you weren’t here…

*Taken from “Difficult students” by Tom Wayman

Here’s a professor’s perspective on this question:
This question is an example of student-teacher miscommunication. Professors get annoyed by these questions because for many of us, most, if not all of our classes are important.

Why do we spend time preparing lectures? The answer to the question can almost always be found in the syllabus. So you should know that the reason this question bothers us is because we believe that a student should already know what happened in class.

It seems like the student expects the professor to give a blow-by-blow description of everything that happened for the entire class session.

My problem with asking me this question is that most students will either wait until just before class starts to talk to me, or they send me an e-mail wanting me to detail the day’s events.

Bottom line: it seems pretty clear that they don’t want the long answer because it is obvious that 5 minutes before class starts or responding to an e-mail does not provide enough time to answer the question.

Here’s how I interpret that question: “I didn’t care enough about your course to show up yesterday, but I’m sure that in the next few seconds or even in this e-mail you can teach me everything that I would have learned if I decided to show up for your 50-minute class-the class that you spent hours preparing.” Sounds crazy, I know, but I want to be honest and tell you that this is how I “hear”/interpret that question for sure!

What almost seems to be a pattern is this: the student that asks the question is often times the student that demonstrates other “disrespectful classroom behaviors” (i.e., talking during lecture, leaving early, chronic skipping, using the computer to surf the net, sleeping, reading the paper, etc)

So, should you just avoid asking your professor what happens when you’ve miss class? No, but think about how you ask the question first. That’s all I am saying.

Here’s how you should handle a missed class:
1) Figure out what information you already have. Read the syllabus (especially my syllabus. It is 24-pages long! Obviously I tell students everything they need to know in those 24 pages)

2) Read the textbook chapter that was assigned that day.

3) If you know that your professor gives a lot of notes, make arrangements to get the notes from another student in the class (I not only mention this in my syllabus, but go over this policy several times during the first week of classes).

4) Then, ask your instructor what you missed in a way that indicates that you’ve already done everything that you can do on your own. For example: “Dr. Frisby, I had to miss class on Friday. I read the chapter on media planning and I’m getting the notes from Katie. Did we go over anything else that I should know about?”

Now, I can’t speak for all of my colleagues, teachers, and professors, but I know that will stop me from interpreting the “did I miss anything important” question in the wrong way. When you state it to me in this way, it shows me that you are a serious, dedicated student.

Perhaps you did not intend to miss class. Perhaps something serious came up. Nonetheless, asking the question in this way is a much more positive way to solve the problem of missing work.

Just never, ever ask a professor if you missed “anything important.” Remember, what you are really saying is that “this class really doesn’t matter to me at all. But, I was wondering, was Friday an exception?”

I can say this (and my students will attest to it), Everything I teach is important to me; that’s why I teach. I spend hours working on power point presentations, finding great examples, multi-media uses, etc to make each and every class interesting and IMPORTANT.

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Aug 10 2008

Get Your “Packing for College Checklist”

Published by John under College Life, For Parents

Packing for College ChecklistThe last time I chcked, the Internet was still about the sharing of information.

I recently received a newsletter from the SallieMae | College Answer site which contained a really great FREE “Packing for College Checklist” that students can use to help remind them of things to bring with them as they get ready to return or go to college.

The “Packing for College Checklist“ can save you time, help you get organized, and lower your stress level. Of course, you won’t need everything on this checklist, but it can make the process easier.

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Aug 04 2008

College Freshman: How to Get Over Homesickness

Published by John under College Life

Guest Blogger: Susan Fee

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Whether you’re a freshman or a senior, studying abroad or going to college in your hometown – it’s natural to have a period of adjustment when you leave home.

Experiencing new things and meeting different people can be exciting and stressful at the same time. Sometimes, it can make you feel a deep desire to return to the people and situations you know best.

The good news is that homesickness goes away eventually. As you gradually get used to your new surroundings, you’ll grow more comfortable. You’ll also gain a sense of confidence and independence by knowing that you can learn to adjust. Here are some tips to help ease your transition.

Accept that things will be different, but different isn’t bad or wrong. Part of maturing is learning to be flexible in different situations, so this is all part of the process of preparing you for a fantastic future.

Bring a piece of home. Pack special items that remind you of home and give you comfort like your pillow, stuffed animals, pictures, posters, music, and specialty food items.

Focus on what you’re gaining. Instead of thinking about everything you’re missing, focus on what you’re gaining by being away. Think about all the new experiences you can share with friends and family when you return.

Know that you’re not alone. Everyone who is new is in the same boat so find a buddy to go exploring. Walk around and learn the campus and city. The more familiar you become with your new surroundings, the more your feelings of homesickness will fade.

Keep in touch. You’re never more than a call or click away from friends and family. Make an effort to explore and learn new things about your environment so you can share your experiences with them.

Get involved. Join a club, study group, or find a part-time job that will get you involved with other people. Knowing that you will see the same faces and interact on a regular schedule helps a lot.

Plan a visit. Invite friends and family to visit you and act as their tour guide. It also helps to schedule a trip back home, but avoid going home every weekend. You’ll gain more confidence by sticking it out and finding new things to do.

Talk about your feelings. Homesickness is natural. It doesn’t mean you are weak, only that you have experienced love and security in your home life – and that’s a good thing! If you find you are having trouble coping, talk to a friend, roommate, RA, or a campus counselor.

It’s important to acknowledge your feelings rather than keep them inside. You are definitely not the first student to experience homesickness, and by sharing what you’re going through with others, you’ll find even more ways to start to adjust.

Susan Fee is a licensed counselor, business coach, and communications expert. She is the author two tips booklets, “Positive First Impressions: 83 Ways to Establish Confidence, Competence, and Trust” and “Dealing With Difficult People: 83 Ways to Stay Calm, Composed, and in Control.” She has also written a college survival guide, “My Roommate Is Driving Me Crazy!” Solve Conflicts, Set Boundaries, and Survive the College Roommate from Hell” (Adams Media). She can be reached at www.susanfee.com or www.myroommateisdrivingmecrazy.com.

Susan Fee may be contacted at http://www.susanfee.com or Susan_Fee@msn.com

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